Women’s Grace - SAKHI’s 20th Anniversary Benefit Gala
Wednesday, September 30th, 2009SAKHI is taking care of the world, one woman at a time. I’ll explain what I mean later, with my cryptic statement, but first let me tell you about this NYC-based organization. Founded in 1989 by a group of five South Asian women, SAKHI - meaning “woman friend” - was created to give a voice and a safe place to fall to women who are victims of domestic violence.
This coming Friday, the organization celebrates their twentieth year of helping women. From work which
began with community members taking calls from their apartments, they now represent women in need from the initial outreach to representation and help in putting their lives back together. And for their fantastic Gala they will have another exceptional woman among them, filmmaker Mira Nair, who is slated to release her film about flying explorer Amelia Earhart titled ‘Amelia’ later in October. Talk about one independent woman, shooting a film about another free spirit, helping an organization devoted to helping women, formed by empowered women. This sentence feels like a symphony to my independent heart!
I find SAKHI’s mission particularly poignant, because they understand deeply that the healing of our planet
begins at home, from the caretakers of the human race onward. If a woman is distraught and abused, then her whole family nucleus suffers and when that happens, the community around her begins to break down. It is not an accident that parts of the world where women are considered second-class citizens are also the areas of most conflict and rage these days. Restore the mother figure and you’ll fix a country. Repair the family and you’ll heal the world. But those are big lofty words from a back-seat revolutionary like me. While I talk and write, SAKHI does, filling the ocean of womanly hope with one drop of giving, one at a time.
The conflict between the sexes is as old as the world. If we do believe in the Adam & Eve fairytale version of creation, even then male and female could not agree, and religion even delivers an additional unwelcomed blow to women by making them the ambassadors of sin. Coming from a Catholic Italian background, it has been a verbal leitmotif in my life - delivered as a joke by my chauvinistic uncles or as a tease by some of my
more insecure suitors - that women can either be fantasy sex creatures or good wholesome mothers. Of course, their words were a bit more crude, but you get my point. Become a full-fledged whole woman, a bit of a mixture of both those qualities with a lot of intelligence and leading skills thrown in, and you’ve become a woman who is threatening to most males… In this age of confusion of the sexes, that’s a trigger in most violent relationships. If the male feels ‘emasculated’ then the woman must pay.
I was lucky to grow up with a mother who is fiercely independent and also possesses otherworldly courage, so naturally I became a woman who required respect and good manners from her men. Needless to say, as a result of such requirements I have spent longer stretches of my adult life being single than in relationships. Mine is not a bitter point-of-view, in any way, but rather a realistic version of the legend of Prince Charming. If I were asked to disclose my choice for a story which truly shows the battle of the sexes and a natural - albeit it taken to the extreme - version of what goes on in the mind of married men and women, I would probably take ‘The Kreuzter Sonata’ over ‘Cinderella’, any day! Again, it may sound a bit hard to some, but personally, that one story by Tolstoy has helped me to understand the battle of the sexes, the questionable reasons for that jealousy and conflict that arise in a relationship, even the inexcusable violence that is so often perpetrated against women. I am not a feminist, but rather someone who believes in and supports the unbelievable strength and beauty of the largest minority on the face of the earth: WOMEN.
That is exactly why, come Friday October 2nd, you will find me at the SAKHI Benefit Gala, supporting their mission in the one way I know how - reporting about it. Stay tuned for a full piece about the event on the AVS TV blog, or better yet, join me…







































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